Social Media Like Any Good Drug Has Side Effects

I have a love/hate relationship with social media. It’s a cool way to keep up with old schoolmates, friends and family, but at the same time it’s easy to start comparing yourself to what you see on your timeline. Whether someone you know is making major moves in their career or taking cute pics with “Bae,” it can put a damper on your mood, especially if you desire those same things.

We all have an idea of where our lives should be within a certain time frame. Me? By now I thought I would be married (or at least engaged) as I live my own version of Carrie Bradshaw’s life as a writer. I’ll let you in on a little secret—there’s been a slight change of plans.

If you’re not where you want to be, it’s not too late to do something about it. Just last year, I felt like God had conveniently skipped over me when it came to my career. Every time I looked on Instagram or Facebook, everyone around me seemed to be on the come-up, while I was still trying to find a way to live out my dreams.

The dream was simple. I just wanted to write for magazines, specifically in Chicago. When I stopped comparing myself to other people and really focused on what I wanted to accomplish, the opportunity presented itself at the perfect time.  After years of pursuing this goal (and grinding like no other), I accepted an editorial position for a national publication in Chicago.  I was blessed with exactly what I asked for.

If you have a goal, work for it. Don’t look at what others are doing. It’s the quickest way to discredit your progress and it takes you off your game.

What is meant for you will not pass you by.


Ashley White is a regular contributor at She Writes Life. When she isn’t unnecessarily shopping for home decor, you can find her thoughts on life, love and relationships here on She Writes Life. Follow her musings on Instagram @love_ashl3y.



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